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Step into a space where stories, reflections, and practical wisdom converge to nurture your healing journey.

Why Read the Refugia Blog?

• Reflect and Renew: Discover thought-provoking insights that inspire deeper self-awareness and intentional living.

• Practical Tools for Change: Explore healing practices and actionable strategies to bring alignment and purpose into your daily life.

• Stories That Resonate: Find connection in the shared experiences of others navigating change, trauma, and healing.

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leaders gathered around the fire

leaders gathered around the fire

AN INVITATION TO HEALING-CENTERED LEADERSHIP

Healing is not a personal endeavor. It is a cultural one, and when healing sits at the center of leadership, everything changes.

Healing Practices

4 days ago9 min read

HEALING ACROSS GENERATIONS: Re-authoring our Core Struggles into Core Blessings

HEALING ACROSS GENERATIONS: Re-authoring our Core Struggles into Core Blessings

HEALING ACROSS GENERATIONS: Re-authoring our Core Struggles into Core Blessings

Healing Across Generations, is a tending ground for what’s alive in us. We inherit so much from those who came before us — not just the color of our eyes or the shape of our hands, but the stories that were never told, the silences that shaped us, the patterns that keep repeating without our conscious knowing. These hidden legacies show up in our fears, our struggles, our language — in the way things are said or not said when we feel stuck or alone.

Healing Practices

Oct 167 min read

group of people from different cultures gathered in circles

group of people from different cultures gathered in circles

FROM COLONIAL PATTERNS TO REGENERATIVE PRACTICES: An Ongoing Journey of Decolonisation

Decolonisation for me has not been a single moment, but a continuous, moment-to-moment process of learning and unlearning. It is a practice of noticing where colonial patterns still live in me—how I replicate them, how I resist them, and how I can consciously choose more regenerative, life-affirming ways of being.

Flip The Narratives

Aug 265 min read

WHEN WE FREEZE: A Healing-Centered Reflection on Grief and Flow

WHEN WE FREEZE: A Healing-Centered Reflection on Grief and Flow

WHEN WE FREEZE: A Healing-Centered Reflection on Grief and Flow

Unlike flight or fight, which prepare us to act, freeze pulls us inward. Our heart rate slows. Our body feels heavy or detached. Thoughts might feel cloudy or far away. This isn’t dysfunction. It’s protection. It’s the body saying: This is too much, too fast. Let’s pause.

Healing Practices

May 133 min read

CULTIVATING LIMINAL LITERACY: Three Essential Shifts

CULTIVATING LIMINAL LITERACY: Three Essential Shifts

CULTIVATING LIMINAL LITERACY: Three Essential Shifts

To thrive, we must develop "liminal literacy"—the ability to read, respond to, and grow through the unique demands of threshold experiences.

Healing Practices

Jan 244 min read

THE GENTLE RHYTHM OF HEALING: How Pendulation Softens and Restores

THE GENTLE RHYTHM OF HEALING: How Pendulation Softens and Restores

THE GENTLE RHYTHM OF HEALING: How Pendulation Softens and Restores

Pendulation refers to the gentle movement of attention between states of distress or activation and states of calm.

Healing Practices

Jan 177 min read

POST TRAUMATIC GROWTH: Unearthing Strengths Amidst the Struggles

POST TRAUMATIC GROWTH: Unearthing Strengths Amidst the Struggles

POST TRAUMATIC GROWTH: Unearthing Strengths Amidst the Struggles

Within life's upheavals lie the potential for transformation—what Richard Tedeschi and Lawrence Calhoun coined as Post-Traumatic Growth.

Healing Practices

Jan 135 min read

PENDULATION: Honoring the Rhythm Between Activation and Ease

PENDULATION: Honoring the Rhythm Between Activation and Ease

PENDULATION: Honoring the Rhythm Between Activation and Ease

Pendulation, a term introduced by Dr. Peter Levine, describes the natural rhythm of moving between states of activation and ease.

Healing Practices

Jan 105 min read

CULTIVATE EMPATHY: Building Bridges of Understanding and Healing (Part 2)

CULTIVATE EMPATHY: Building Bridges of Understanding and Healing (Part 2)

CULTIVATE EMPATHY: Building Bridges of Understanding and Healing (Part 2)

Empathy is a profound gift, one that we offer not only to others but also to ourselves. It is the foundation of meaningful relationships.

Healing Practices

Jan 68 min read

THE TEND AND BEFRIEND THEORY: A Pathway to Connection and Collective Healing

THE TEND AND BEFRIEND THEORY: A Pathway to Connection and Collective Healing

THE TEND AND BEFRIEND THEORY: A Pathway to Connection and Collective Healing

The "tend and befriend" theory expands the traditional fight-or-flight narrative. It shows how humans often respond to stress through care.

Healing Practices

Jan 26 min read

EMPATHY: The Healing Bridge Between Us (Part 1)

EMPATHY: The Healing Bridge Between Us (Part 1)

EMPATHY: The Healing Bridge Between Us (Part 1)

Empathy is the thread that weaves the tapestry of our "kapwa" (our shared humanity). It allows us to feel seen, heard, and valued.

Healing Practices

Dec 28, 20247 min read

LISTENING TO THE WHISPERS: Uncovering and Embracing Our Authentic Callings

LISTENING TO THE WHISPERS: Uncovering and Embracing Our Authentic Callings

LISTENING TO THE WHISPERS: Uncovering and Embracing Our Authentic Callings

There’s a quiet invitation that stirs within us—a whisper that nudges us toward something greater, something more aligned.

Healing Practices

Dec 13, 20246 min read

PRACTICING ATTUNEMENT: HOW TO OWN THE ENERGY YOU BRING IN THE ROOM

PRACTICING ATTUNEMENT: HOW TO OWN THE ENERGY YOU BRING IN THE ROOM

PRACTICING ATTUNEMENT: HOW TO OWN THE ENERGY YOU BRING IN THE ROOM

Attunement is our assiduity and acuity in matching, mirroring, and making sense of the here and now. It is a foundational skill.

What I Wish They Knew

Dec 11, 20246 min read

UNDERSTANDING YOUR FREEZE RESPONSE TO SUPPORT A LOVED ONE WITH ILLNESS

UNDERSTANDING YOUR FREEZE RESPONSE TO SUPPORT A LOVED ONE WITH ILLNESS

UNDERSTANDING YOUR FREEZE RESPONSE TO SUPPORT A LOVED ONE WITH ILLNESS

Our bodies are wired with various survival mechanisms, and the freeze response is one of them. Freeze response is the body's survival tactic

What I Wish They Knew

Dec 11, 20247 min read

HERBS TO SUPPORT A HEAVY HEART

HERBS TO SUPPORT A HEAVY HEART

HERBS TO SUPPORT A HEAVY HEART

I wanted to share a tea blend that I’ve been leaning on to support vitality, focus, tend to the heart, and more.

Healing Practices

Dec 9, 20242 min read

SUGGESTIONS ON HOW TO HOLD SPACE FOR LOVE ONES RECENTLY DIAGNOSED WITH AN ILLNES

SUGGESTIONS ON HOW TO HOLD SPACE FOR LOVE ONES RECENTLY DIAGNOSED WITH AN ILLNES

SUGGESTIONS ON HOW TO HOLD SPACE FOR LOVE ONES RECENTLY DIAGNOSED WITH AN ILLNES

Holding space for love ones going through cancer diagnosis and treatments is not for the faint of heart.

Healing Practices

Dec 8, 20248 min read

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